Kinder im Haushalt

How much can and should they help?

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Whether and to what extent children help in the household varies from parent to parent. In fact, it even varies from culture to culture. In this country, for example, children do not help much around the house, while in other parts of the world they are firmly scheduled and expected to take on a lot of responsibility. What is a good way for children to help around the house? How much should they earn? And why at all?

Children in the household – legal situation in Germany

Writing right at the beginning about the legal situation in Germany in connection with the topic of children in the household and their help will certainly seem unusual to many at first. In reality, however, it is the case that children and young people required by law to do so they are able to help around the house according to their level of development and environment.

It is said in §1619 Civil Code (BGB):

“As long as the child belongs to the parental household and is brought up or supported by the parents, he is obliged to render services to the parents in their household and business in a manner commensurate with their strength and station in life.”

How should it be interpreted? First of all, this law does not mean that children should do everything in the household by themselves or have to do most of it. Help should be proportionate to his strength and position in life, which means Age, level of development, school requirements and also social development in relation to friends and hobbies are taken into account it should be. Children should not do all the work, but take on appropriate small tasks that are necessary in coexistence and improve it. How strong the involvement really is is and remains, of course, the decision of the parents and cannot and should not be prescribed by any law.

However, the inclusion of children in the household can have a positive effect.

Why should children help around the house?

Helping children in the home can be important and useful for them and their development. Many positive things can be imparted and learned through this. Children can do this by taking on tasks independently Time and self management learn. If children are allowed to manage and complete tasks independently, they need to decide when to do them so that it is not too much or interferes with other appointments such as hobbies or meeting friends. This is good practice so that later you can organize your days and time independently. This too can lead to independence.

Children can also learn to commit to a task overcome, even if he doesn’t feel like it. So can one sense of duty arise, which can also be useful in later life.

He’ll learn it soon enough, too necessary competencesbe able to perform daily tasks. The shock of moving out of your parents’ house (“§$%) is not so big anymore The relevance of homework aware and experiencing what it is like to be needed and Part of the family team be.

Choose tasks that are age appropriate

Before it comes to tasks for children at home, something general that motivates children in advance. WHO as parents themselves set a good example continues and performs his duties conscientiously and conscientiously good mood done, it makes it easier for children to approach things with joy and a positive feeling. On the other hand, if you look at the housework yourself with demotivation, you can’t be surprised that even the child is not enthusiastic about taking over and completing the tasks.

In general, the chosen tasks should corresponding to the child’s age and development be. The sooner If you involve the children in the little things, it is usually easier to motivate them. On the other hand, if you try to teach your teenager that he should now help around the house, even though he has never had a chore before, you could face resistance and rejection.

They will be the following several examples for each age stage submitted to assignments. these are examples only, which means of course not every child has to do this, but there are also other tasks that may be appropriate. As a rule, parents can judge for themselves which tasks are suitable for their own child and which ones he can already master or which still seem too difficult. Only so many tasks should be assigned to it still plenty of time Schoolwork, hobbies and friends remain because these are important to children and youth.

Children can deal with small things from kindergarten age or even just before entering the household. In this age the children are usually even happyto contribute as they rediscover themselves and their abilities. It doesn’t matter that the children usually need longer to complete the task at first and that the parents have to explain everything to them in detail. It is mainly about them taking something on themselves, being able to learn from it and, ideally, having fun. At such a young age it should clean up the room and used toys belongs to tasks. After all, this is also the case in kindergarten, so the transfer to the context at home is only logical. Of course, parents can also support this, but it should be clear that the child participates in it and that it is their responsibility.

In addition, the involvement of small children can help with the topic Serve the table and put away your own dishes to act. They are small and manageable tasks. In addition, the children in the household could also wipe off the dust help or even help on low surfaces hang clothes.

in elementary school age then other tasks can be added. Here, the first step can be, for example, that own room with little or no help from parents clean up. Also dishwasher cleaning can be a chore just like that Suck own room, liquidation dirty laundry in laundry basket as well as admission laundry in the closet, Taking out the garbage bag and that too Help in the kitchen with cooking can slowly strive.

of High School in theory, many children and young people can almost all tasks take over in the household. The motivation to do this usually decreases during puberty, but compliance with assigned tasks is still important for the development of children and youth. As you get older, you can more complex tasks added, such as handling an entire load of laundry from start to finish. Also number of tasks may increase depending on other duties.

The role of parents

Parents can soothe their children at home initially remind them to complete their task. This can be useful especially when a new task has been introduced. However, over time, memories should diminish and completion should be assumed. That Cheque can also be coaxed out over time, but should be part of it at the start. If the task is done well, smaller children will especially benefit praise and joy about. Rewarding completed tasks with money, on the other hand, is less appropriate because it can lead to distorted values ​​and evaluations. A compliment and a good feeling afterwards should be reward enough.

Homework mediation as something that can be fun too and not only something unpleasant that needs to be done, it can bring, for example, during cleaning. Here’s how parents can Cleaning game children’s room, for example by playing music to which they sing and dance. Or you can stage a kind of race against time, in which it is about who cleans the most in a certain time. There are no limits to imagination here, so young children in particular can familiarize themselves with the tasks with fun.

When dividing tasks, it may make sense to ensure that the child he should not only do tasks that he does not enjoy at all or that he likes very much. This is where a mixture usually works. That also regular rotation of tasks and regular redistribution in the family can help ensure that everyone can and should do something else. A good way to do this is with a family budget. This records who has what task and when, so that everything is transparent and fair and no one feels disadvantaged.

One excessive severityespecially in relation to cleaning the room, is included in the price often inappropriate and leads to defiant reactions. That the room of children and youth sometimes seems chaotic is normal and no big deal. It should be clear that there should be no debris in the room and the room should be cleaned and thoroughly cleaned at regular intervals, such as once a week.


Involvement of children in the household makes sense and can support children’s development. Smaller children in the household can also be a helper and a task. In doing so, they should have distributed tasks appropriate for age and development to be selected. Walk Parents with a good example and a good mood progress, children and youth also enjoy helping more.

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