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Many different parenting styles are prevalent in today’s population. One of them is the autocratic parenting style. This can be considered an aggravated form of authoritarian parenting. What exactly does that mean? How good is this parenting style? what are the consequences?
An autocratic parenting style is a parenting style defined by social psychology. It counts as one increase authoritarian parenting style. This means that it reinforces the views and actions of an authoritarian parenting style. People who follow this style assume that it is absolutely necessarily is clear and unquestionable to children authority figure perform. The hierarchy in the family is therefore even clearer and the parents present themselves even more as an authority because it is assumed that this is necessary for the child.
The autocratic style of education is further characterized by the fact that educators are rigid Rules pretend and whatever decision regardless of the children’s feelings and needs alone dropped Themes play a particularly important role obedience and discipline. Things decided by educators must be followed by children without being able to express their opinion. As a result, children’s feelings, needs, interests, perspectives, ideas and opinions are not taken into account. These are unimportant for educators and their decision-making.
This means that all the rules, tasks and also are set by the educators themselves activities determinewhich children should do and which Follow the rules very strictly. Children are required to observe these things and obey them obediently. To achieve this, often threats pronounced, becomes s intimidating action and misconduct happens fined. Correct behavior can be praised, but it is not always so. The child’s own initiative and independence are not supported or desired at all.
The relationship between the child and the educator tends to be cold and distant. If the child behaves properly, the educator is usually friendly.
effects and consequences
The autocratic educational style is thus a further intensification of the authoritarian educational style. A supposedly good consequence of this style of parenting is often that Children really follow the rules and regulations of their parents and show no public and embarrassing behavior problems. They look neat and decent. However, like the authoritarian style, it also prevails here negative effects and consequences educational styles identified by research. Because this supposedly nice external effect can have serious consequences.
One of the most important effects is that children they will not develop into independent and self-responsible people be able. You won’t learn them own opinion formulate their needs express and yourself decision meet for yourself. They are dependent and dependent on their educators in their actions. You can, your creativity like initiative they do not develop and thus do not recognize themselves as an independent and capable person. This often enables them no healthy self-confidence and self-esteem develop. Feelings too inferiority It can happen.
These feelings of inferiority can be manifested in the fact that people believe in nothing and they think their opinion is worth nothing. In addition, it may happen that they still have problems in school and in their professional life, make decisions for yourself or for others and for these responsibility assume. Standing up for yourself and your opinion can also be difficult.
To put it bluntly, it can mental disorders Come. Thus, the parenting style can under certain circumstances support obsessive-compulsive disorders or other psychological difficulties.
These internal consequences and problems can also be reflected in other behaviors. So it can happen that people themselves aggressive show others or yourself. In this way, one can try to cover one’s own insecurity.
The basic premise of the autocratic parenting style is that it is important to a necessarily is like to the child a clear authority figure perform. The hierarchy in the family is clearly regulated, with the parent(s) being the undisputed leader. They make all decisions, determine activities, set rigid rules, follow them, can threaten, intimidate and punish. and children will be there are not included or taken into account in any way. This creates developing and consequently also self-efficacy and self-confidence inhibited. Also initiative and creativity stays on track. Disabled people can have a hard time make decisions and stand up for yourself. He can feelings of inferiority Come. Consequences can also result in mental illness focus. Disabled behavior is common aggressive towards themselves or others to distract from their insecurities. Today, and in our country, the autocratic style of education is no longer widespread in this clear form.
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